I heard about eHarmony through a friend of mine over a year ago. She said that in the U.S it had a very high success rate because of the unique way matches are made. At that time, eHarmony UK was being heavily promoted in the UK, so much so that I immediately hated it! *lol* A few months back though, I decided I would join in order to write an article about my experience. After all, it's free to join!
That article never got written. But I am going to share my experience with you. The free joining is not actually worth the time and effort spent filling in the millions of personality questions that you get in order to find matches. When your matches come through you can't see photos or chat to them until you pay.This is a brilliant deterrent against weirdos joining up and using it for a laugh but for people who just want to get a feel for it, it's a little bit frustrating.
A while later I got an offer for three months membership for the price of one. In the name of research, I decided I would give it a shot.
Now, I can only speak for my own experience, I am sure others have had much better luck, but although I was appraoched numerous times by men who were interested in me, I had a hard time finding anyone who seemed as if they would ever be my type, prompting me to slightly question the matching system. I grant that maybe in my haste to get through the questions, I may have mis-read a few towards the end when I got bored though! Many men refused to put up a photo and even when requested, they refused. Why contact someone if you don't want them see what you look like? Would they arrange a meet up with a bag over their head??
When trawling through my daily matches, I also found a ridiculous amount of men who had written "hbbsdigfhdsgfsbf" and other such random gibberish in all of the information boxes. If that isn't a waste of time, I don't know what is!
So what did I learn about myself through using eHarmony?
1) I am fussy
2) Very rarely am I attracted to men who are attracted to (explains a lot LOL!)
3) When I see really good looking men on a dating site, I assume they are on there for a bet because nobody that hot would ever be on a dating site (:p)
4) I will never use a dating site for research or any other purpose ever again!
This is in no way a slight against eHarmony itself. I know that it has matched many successful couples but you have to be VERY determined to find the right one, and well.....my heart was never really in it!
Have you had any experiences with eHarmony? Perhaps you know someone who has? Please share any stories or thoughts you have in the comments!